Learning how to forgive others is one of the most unnatural duties in the Christian life .
It goes against our human nature. Forgiving is a supernatural act that Jesus Christ was capable of, but when we are hurt by someone, we want to hold a grudge. We want justice. Sadly, we don’t trust God with that.
There is a secret to successfully living the Christian life, however, and that same secret applies when we’re struggling with how to forgive.
We are all wounded. We are all inadequate. On our best days, our self-esteem hovers somewhere between feeble and fragile. All it takes is disapproval—or perceived disapproval—to send us staggering. These attacks bother us because we forget who we really are.
As believers, you and I are forgiven children of God. We have been lovingly adopted into his royal family as his sons and daughters. Our true worth comes from our relationship to him, not from our appearance, our performance or our net worth. When we remember that truth, criticism bounces off us. The trouble is that we forget.
We seek others’ approval. When they reject us instead, it hurts. By taking our eyes off God and his acceptance and putting them on the conditional acceptance of our boss, spouse, or friend, we set ourselves up to be hurt. We forget that other people are incapable of unconditional love.
Deep students conference taught me that forgiveness its not for the one whom you are forgiving but for your self, set yourself free. You know what ,when you forgive you feel like there is that heaviness which has been removed from your heart. Forgiveness it’s not running away from the person that hurts you, a strong no.It is not getting over it, forgetting about it, letting it go, being okay with it,simply a feeling-No.It takes the wholesome of you to forgive and not drinking the poison-bitterness, it takes you to talk to the person and tell him/her that you have forgiven her/him for whatever one has done.It needs you to put off all your pride and live like what Christ did as we are all Christians
When we have been hurt, our instinct is to hurt back. We want to make the other person pay for what they did. But exacting revenge steps over the line into God’s territory, as Paul warned,
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
(Romans 12:19, )
If we cannot take revenge, then we must forgive. God commands it. But how? How can we let it go when we have been unjustly hurt?
The answer lies in understanding the Trinity’s role in forgiveness. Refusing to forgive leaves an open wound in our soul that festers into bitterness, resentment, and depression. For our own good, and the good of the person who hurt us, we simply must forgive. Just as we trust God for our salvation, we have to trust him to make things right when we forgive. He will heal our wound so we can move on.
I love you all. Let’s learn to forgive, I am also learning, let’s do this together.